Dan Savage gave an interview with the ‘New York Times’ discussing monogamy and open relationships. Duh! Nothing new here! Savage has always been an advocate of open relationships as long as the partners involved are honest with each other. But, here’s a couple of juicy tidbits to chew over when you’re considering whether monogamy is working for your relationship:
“I acknowledge the advantages of monogamy,” Savage [says], “when it comes to sexual safety, infections, emotional safety, paternity assurances. But people in monogamous relationships have to be willing to meet me a quarter of the way and acknowledge the drawbacks of monogamy around boredom, despair, lack of variety, sexual death and being taken for granted.”
“The mistake that straight people made,” Savage [says], “was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous. Men had concubines, mistresses and access to prostitutes, until everybody decided marriage had to be egalitarian and fairsey.” In the feminist revolution, rather than extending to women “the same latitude and license and pressure-release valve that men had always enjoyed,” we extended to men the confines women had always endured. “And it’s been a disaster for marriage.”
What do you think? Does he make any good points? If you’re interested in ready the rest of the article, click HERE.